I hesitated to write this blog post but thought, what the hell? Maybe someone out there feels the same way, which may help someone else. If this interests you, follow me on this journey and share your thoughts.
As I write this, I find myself in a peculiar and transformative phase of my life. I’m calling it my “IDGAF era” – a time where I am learning to prioritize myself unapologetically. It’s been a long time coming, and quite frankly, I never thought I’d get here. But here I am, embracing the freedom that comes with not giving a f'ck and instead focusing on my own well-being.
Reflecting on my past, I realize how much of my life was spent on autopilot. I became a mother at 15, and since then, my life has revolved around taking care of everyone else. Although I was a young mom, I was determined to stick to my plan: finish high school, go to college, even law school, get married, and buy my dream house and car. By the Grace of God, I accomplished all of that. I faced countless challenges and tests that have shaped my journey – stories for another time. But now, I find myself asking, what's next?
Reflections on My Journey
For years, I was stuck in a cycle of constantly giving. I was trying to be the perfect mom, wife, employee, and everything else. I didn’t even realize that I was letting so many things and people dictate my life, which led to burnout. Big time.
I was living life on autopilot, and I reached a point where if I had not slowed down and taken care of myself, I probably wouldn't be here today. My turning point was a family cruise I took back in December.
Before leaving for the trip, I applied and interviewed for a management position, as I was ready to take my career to the next level. While on the cruise, I learned I was not selected for the position. At first, I was upset, but as I lay on the deck, listening and watching the waves, which was so peaceful, I thought about who I am and what that role would’ve done to me if I had been offered the position. I also felt that corporate America doesn’t want people like me. I say that because I am the type of person who is going to speak my mind, speak up for others and what’s right. And I know my shit!
Then I realized management was not for me, which left me asking God what was next for me….where do I go from here? As I lay in the chair on the boat deck, listening to the waves and looking out at the water, it felt like God was telling me to pause and rest. I reflected on how I’ve been running on autopilot since becoming a mom at 15. I knew in that moment it was His way of telling me to slow down, take a step back, and focus on myself.
It became clear that it was time to focus on myself, heal from my past, and start living authentically. That’s when I stepped into my IDGAF season. It was time to stop caring about what people thought or expected from me and start focusing on what I needed. Embracing this mindset wasn’t easy at first, but it has been one of the most freeing decisions I've made.
This IDGAF mindset has changed my life. I’ve set boundaries in my home and work life, which was huge for me. I learned that saying ‘no’ isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. I’ve started taking better care of myself and prioritizing my peace.
And the best part? I feel more confident. I know what’s best for me, and I’m not afraid to make decisions that reflect that.
Lessons Learned and Practical Advice
One technique that has helped me on this journey is mindfulness. Taking a few minutes each day to sit quietly and focus on my breath has been a game-changer. Journaling has also been therapeutic, allowing me to process my thoughts and feelings in a safe space.
Self-care has become a non-negotiable part of my routine. Whether it's taking a long bath, listening to music, or simply lying across the bed watching TV, these small acts of kindness towards myself have made a significant difference.
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I want to hear from you. Have you ever felt like you were living on autopilot? How did you manage to break free? What steps are you taking to prioritize yourself?
Let's share our stories and support each other on this journey of self-discovery and healing.
Remember, it’s never too late to start caring for yourself. Welcome to the IDGAF era.
With love and gratitude,
Jennifer
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